Thoughts from the Barnyard: All you have to do is ask

“All you have to do is ask.” Such a common phrase when we see someone we know who needs help. For many, they acknowledge the offer and never seek out assistance. And that is ok, as there are times when the struggle was only short-lived. However, there are times in our lives where we lean on those who offer some help.

When I was a continuing care assistant, I was the help. I would be asked to perform small tasks for the client, knowing they would not be able to bend down to pick something up, had the means to run downtown for something as small as a watch battery or even had difficulty stitching a button back on. If a client had a fall or a setback because they were too proud to ask for help, I would more than likely have said those words, “All you had to do was ask.”

During the time my family owned an abattoir, it was all hands on deck when we got busy. We all manned our stations, each contributing where we were able to. We all worked well together, while having some laughs and intense conversations all throughout as well. Now, after all those years, we have gathered from time to time, once again working together to get a job done. It has gotten to the point where we even offer help, we just show up and do it. As my uncle would say, “That’s what family is for.”

Then there are the friends we can rely on. The ones who become a part of your family. They don’t bat an eye when push comes to shove. Much like family, they do not wait to be told no. They spring into action, getting the task at hand done. They help because they genuinely care for you and do not look for any praise or recognition. But we all know, we show our appreciation in one way or another and if the tables were turned, we would do the same for them.

I recently fell on some ice, causing some major problems in my right knee. I have been known for being stubborn and this has not stopped me. However, I am realizing I need to accept some help. I am fortunate I have a son who has his driver’s licence and another with his learner’s. They have been so helpful in carting dear old mom around wherever I need to go. Although they may not enjoy toting me from here to there, I am certain they are happy to have the vehicle on a regular basis!

I am also appreciative of my co-workers. They have been more than willing to help with attending some of the holiday activities in the surrounding communities. I am still trying to get out to some of the functions but have been finding the extra help is there if I need it. It was unfortunate that my injury came the night before the annual Winter Wonderland, but I was still able to take in some of the sights and sounds.

This editorial is not for anyone to feel bad about my misfortune or to offer me assistance, but it is to make you aware that it is ok to ask for help. I have had to lean on my family and friends already with my current situation and I continuously – and apologetically — give them my gratitude. And the next time you find yourself in a scenario where you need an extra set of hands, remember all you have to do is ask.